Gender Egalitarianism..

This time I ve come up with a rather different kinda topic.. ;)

My claim to be a feminist always raised eyebrows and earned me mocking looks.. After all with the prevailing misconception that feminists are misoandric, its a natural reaction to expect.. hmmm... Before I say anyth, i ll share my knowledge of history with u n bore u to my best..

Feminism dates back to eighteenth century.. It picked up speed in the 19th century when matters like woman suffrage, which, now, we take for granted, were fought for.. The then feminists are called the "Equity feminists" and worked for the equal rights of men and women.
Then comes the second wave of feminists called the "Gender feminists" of 1960s.. These are the radical feminists and are responsible for most of the conceptions prevailing now.. They wished to remove the differences between men and women in all areas of life..

And now is the third wave of feminism (consisting of generation Xers and younger).. This is milder than its predecessors.. This generation also beleives in equality of men and women and tend to advocate liberal causes..

Most of us are unaware that there exists a counterpart for feminism.. that is "Masculism".. Masculism is viewed by its proponents as ideologically analogous to feminism and by its opponents as misogyny.

I guess, the term feminism is more notorious then famous.. In fact, any person who beleives in the equality of the sexes can be called a feminist, be it male or female.. But many people argue that if one can be called a 'feminist', then he/she can be called a 'masculist' too.. hahaha.. doesnt it sound funny? May be the word "Gender Egalitarianism" is the better word that is coined to end this dispute..

I happened to read a post "Man vs Woman" by a guy named pavan.. He put it beautifully.
"Men or Women are not better than thier opposite sex. We are simply different from them. and there will always be a few from the other side who will be better than us. And we have to live with it"

How true!
In case u are wondering.. I m no feminist who hates men.. nor do I advocate the usage of the word "humanity" in place of "mankind".. lol..

I m just a Gender Egalitarian.. but somehow the word feminist makes me feel more at home than this..

sleepy n tired..
Spoorthy.

Expectations..

Expectations.. These, I believe result in a product called misery (atleast most of the times, if not always).. hmmm..
No expectations => No let downs
Learnt my lesson the hard way today..

not expecting..
Spoorthy.

p.s:: this probably is my shortest post ever. Ha! Jus discovered that even I can write short posts..

The Quintuple..

What do u remember the moment u think of ur college life? ur classes? ur profs? ur marks?.. nope.. I bet u ll remember the wonderful time u have had with ur friends.. the people with whom u shared all ur fantasies, dreams.. the people with whom u laughed.. the people with whom u fought.. the people who are with u all the time..
n yes.. my engg life had gifted me with four such wonderful persons...
We are called with many names in college.. n we call ourselves 'The Quintuple'.. n here I shall write a small testimonial for each one of 'em.. these few lines are not worthy of 'em.. but still lemme give it a try..

Sudha a.k.a suji.. the most sensible person of all .. the first person I met in my engg.. she is a faithful follower of the lexicon.. n is always trying to improve her already enviable english skills.. The first thing that comes to my mind when I think of sudha is her unending list of crushes.. oh! gosh..her crushes crush us..lol.. she has a strong shoulder and a patient ear to lend when u r blue (but they are not available all the time coz she is either too busy or is blue herself)... she is no person to mess with.. n can u guess what her most powerful weapon is? a camera.. her craziness for natural poses ll really drive u mad.. On a serious tone.. lemme say.. she has got the attitude u wud luv to possess.. can come up with a precise solution to any situation.. She doesnt demand much from u, nor she does let you demand... lol.. monkey.. i know i neednt tell u.. but still.. Meow!!

Kuheli a.k.a kuhi.. the cutest of all.. n shez the exception in truest sense in our group.. yeah.. the only non gulti, the only hostler, the only person whose name doesnt start with 's', the only one whose is not in our batch in labs... ahh.. the list is endless.. I try not to get into her graces when I wear a new dress.. coz she pinches really hard.. really really hard :(( .. we dont last together without getting into a squabble every 10 mins.. n we can come up with a fight abt everyth, right from chockys to cards..lol.. she is the only kiddo in our grp (ofcourse, other than me.. but I m not going admit it here.. :D ).. we share the craziest ideas to which the others roll their eyes.. a feminist jus like me.. the obdurate soul who can manage anything she sets her mind on.. If u can say looks are deceptive abt anyone, it can be abt her.. she looks so angelic n ingenuous.. u wud simply melt away.. but beware.. lol.. kuhi darling.. Be the way u are (coz no one can change u anyway ;) ..).. I wonder with whom I would ve shared my craziness if she wasnt around..

Shanti a.k.a shan.. the most responsible of all.. she is my study mate for all the exams so far.. n is the constant force running behind me to do things.. she is a master in clearing mess (My room will be the neatest in moments she steps in).. she has the caring nature that at the same mercilessly reprimands u for being irresponsible (so much like mom).. A taurean to the core.. faithful, balanced, conservative, possessive, peace loving n not to forget responsible.. n yeah.. she is the singer of our group.. has the melodious voice of all the people I know.. keeps sending me all the songs she sings (well.. i ve no complaints n regrets abt this :D ).. I hate going around with her.. coz she is so slim n makes me feel like a pumpkin :( .. but again.. she eats twice as much as I do.. oh God! Why does this happen?.. he he he.. Her home is our fav place for hanging out.. with music in full blast (though one of our profs lives right beside her flat).. we screaming n enjoying to our lungs full.. apart frm these..she always has strong emotions.. be it anger or sadness or happiness.. she has them to her content.. :) .. n all I say is.. thank u so much shan for ur nagging.. I cant manage without it..

Last but not the least.. actually she is the toughest one to write about.. so postponed it till the end..
Soumya a.k.a som or kathi.. the sweetest of all.. people call us sisters.. n u can find us together most of the time.. she is the one who bears my endless blabber patiently.. she is the one who can manage with my silly tantrums.. people wont beleive that she can talk.. she looks so calm n innocent.. hahaha.. little does they know abt the other side of this person who is so mischievious n fun loving.. her oneliners get us rofl.. she is moderate in everything.. the innocent qs she poses when any nv joke is shared.. lol.. she is frank n yet at the sametime can never think of hurting anyone.. oh mann.. she is so fair n delicate.. gets pink at the slightest touch.. her fan count according to latest census is 6537.. lol.. I jus love teasin her.. so wud u, if u know her.. at times, I wonder how she can bear with all the nonsensical blabber (actually blabber wud be an euphemism) I come up with.. haha.. cant find anyth thats remotely -ve about her.. she always there to cheer me.. n that is som, the sweetest of all..

n I, spoorthy, am the fifth element in the grp.. n I m the incarnation of the goddess of perfection.. hahaha.. come on folks.. this is my blog.. lemme brag atleast here.. lol..

well.. here we are.. The Quintuple.. we dance.. we fight.. we play.. we roam.. we scream.. we sing.. we freak out.. we bunk (my all time favorite).. what not.. totally totally we rock..
Five different personalities.. Together we are complete..

The memories of all the times we are together.. the innocence in first year.. the silly second year.. the thrilling third year.. n finally the 'final' final year.. FCC, the cool drinks we finished.. the Lays packets we fought for.. the movies we went to.. beach road.. not to forget the birthday gift hunts.. the secrets we shared.. the giggles we had.. the list goes on.. I promise to keep them fresh.. remember the day when we dressed like junglemen (women wud b better) jus to scare som out of her sleep.. lol..

I m gonna miss u girls like hell..

luv u loadz.. n hugs for each one of u >:D< >:D< >:D< >:D<
Spoorthy.

Schedule n Me..

hello..
dont panic.. I m not gonna tell u about my schedule.. coz I dont have one basically.. he he he..

Schedule.. ahhh.. what a relief the term brings in.. To be on schedule..That is one resolution I take evry night..lol.. but somehow me n schedule never manage to be synchronous..
Every sem I make a plan two months before my exams.. if I am a little too excited, I do it colorfully n stick it on my cupboard.. n there it stays for another two n half months, until i take pity on it n bury it officially :D

I personally believe that anyth thats on schedule should be given an award coz thats some feat i ve never accomplished yet..lol..
Another stranger to me is punctuality.. I know that its a scornful habit.. :( .. but I somehow always manage to be atleast 10 mins late.. Thank God that my profs have a worse sense of punctuality than me.. otherwise every morning I have to knock the door, give a sheepish grin, mumble something, n enter the class only to find the last benches filled.. worse yet.. in the long run, it may even make me punctual.. so once again thanks to my profs for encouraging me.. lol

Another common experience is the schedule for treats.. somehow whenever I plan to give a treat it either gets postponed or cancelled all together :(( .. this is something to be happy abt (coz i m the host).. but really bugging at times.. I ve to tell all the ppl I invited that the date is postponed n have to make sure that all of 'em r free before generating another random brand new date.. n guess what happens.. the same cycle repeats..

I owe a treat to one of my frnds.. After he asked me for some 4 months or so I finally agreed to give him the treat he deserves.. I invited him, his gf and another frnd to whom I owe a treat too.. I guess it got postponed roughly arnd a dozen times till now.. n whoz the reason?.. Not me all the times (I take breaks too..lol).. Finally I ve planned it tomorrow.. Everything was on schedule.. I had my purse full.. the venue decided.. everyone informed.. n i almost decided what to wear too..hahaha.. my instincts were telling me that this cant happen.. I mean, everything was going too well..

But.. my instincts were nt let down.. *biiiiiiiig sigh*
This time the villain is my friends Project guide.. n I have to break the news to the other one.. well.. u can guess what happened.. this time I cudnt convince her that things always dont go according to schedule.. She so-sweetly asked me not to bother to fix a date next time.. n even if I did, not to tell her the date.. n even if I tell her, that she is not going to come.. phew!!..

Thats means my treat is almost off.. suits me better.. :D
But.. somehow felt a little blue about it.. I still donno why.. my not-so-familiar friend 'schedule' is a dear friend to others.. I ll try to lure it next time.. anyone knows what it likes?

trying to cheer up..
Spoorthy.

An encounter with Veena..

Today I went to one of my old friend's place.. After going thru the routine rituals like catching up news n having lunch, we gave our backs a rest.. Then the goddess of sleep found me somehow.. to keep her away I asked my frnd to play sth on her veena.. My friend has been learning Classical music right from her first standard n has given quite a numbr of veena performances.. Still she was reluctant coz she hasnot touched her veena for more than 2 months.. After assuring that I m the dumbest abt music and wont notice any difference even if she mixed two completely different songs, she agreed ..lol.. n she tried few raagas n geetas.. After every bit she played she tried to get my opinion abt how the song was.. I, the 'lazy bones', dreamily nodded my head, as I found nothing significant in those.. Every sound was the same to my thick eardrum.. My poor friend tried to enlighten me by teaching me the basics..

Sa Re Ga Ma Pa Da Ni Sa..
Sa Ni Da Pa Ma Ga Re Sa..

It was fine as long as she sung them along with me.. The moment I had to do it alone, I mixed up everything mercilessly n went on in a monotonous voice showing no discrimination betwn them.. Poor Sravi ! I can understand ur pain when u had to listen to the bloodless murder of the tunes..

Then on the way home she had a sudden brain wave to take me to her veena class once.. This time it was my turn to be reluctant.. What can I say?.. I cannot even perceive different sounds properly (no no.. I m not deaf.. but jus cant strain my ears to comprehend such delicate stuff..lol) .. N the veena class is for more than an hr.. I told her that I ll be bored to death.. My friend was persistent n I finally gave up..
I assumed the veena teacher to have the stern look on her face n was half expecting her to say, "Why the hell did u come here, U ignorant moron.. Get Outttttttttttttt".. but lucky me.. I found a sweet lady with an equally sweet smile.. I took an instant liking to her n boldly went inside..
We were made to sit on the floor n then the class started..

How the next hour passed, I did not know.. The trained ears of the teacher correcting every small sound that was out of tune.. I sat there watching in awe..
The teacher n the student were lost in their own world totally unconscious about the happenings around and their veenas, locked in unision, singing to their content .. What a wonderful sight.. N I, who never really regretted my ignorance of music, was touched.. How I wish I could master those ragas.. *sigh*

n then?.. nth happened.. I came back home.. writing to u now :) .. n abt to say 'shall catch u later'..

until then,
Spoorthy.

p.s:: Those of u who have started worrying already can breath easily now.. I havent taken any resolution to learn music yet.. but mind u.. I may take it anytime :D

Miniature gargantuan posts..

Size of my posts are always gigantic.. but when I start I always intend it to be small and after all the digressions it ends up like this.. I already heard grumbles of my friends about them.. lol.. I assure u that I ll make them, at least try to make them, small further on..  :D

Cheers,
Spoorthy

The things I m gud at..

well dear.. i kept my promise n m back really soon :)
The title tells all about it.. so what do u think i m gud at.. nah.. i m not expecting u to answer.. infact i dont want u too either.. u r the sole listener i ve got who doesnt pose a single question..lol

When I say what am I gud at.. i mean the things about which i can talk for hours without having to check.. or about which i can boast or show off.. that shud include my hobbies too
I never gave this question a serious thought.. rather i avoided giving it a serious thought.. but it grew up to be a monster.. so time to attack it..

Sports??.. no way!! Forget abt sports, i dont even jog to shed off the extra 15 pounds that are ostentaciously lurking under my skin..

Music??.. i wish i m gud at it.. but alas.. no again.. i donno how to sing.. humming is best thing i can possibly do.. In case u r wondering, nope, i dont sound like a grater when i speak..i have a relatively sweet voice.. I m not really passionate abt listening to music either.. I hardly listen to songs and cant even recollect the beat of the song i listened to jus an hr ago..

Am i a Techno freak?.. that wud be a big joke.. I, spoorthy, doing my final year engg in Computer Science, here by declare solemnly that i m no techno-freak.. hahaha.. I learn things only when they are absolutely necessary..dont like putting my poor brain to work.. i m not the one whose Database is updated with all the technical news or who jumps to learn every damn new software that releases the every other day into the market.. so technical issue is crossed off..

Then what?.. cooking!!.. lol.. Excuse me.. i dont even know how to make Tea.. Instant noodles is the only thing I can make without shouting MOM..

Philosophy.. Photography.. etc.. Cant even think abt them..
Painting??.. hmm.. This is one thing I regret.. I used to draw n paint.. however silly n crude the pictures may turn out to be.. i m still proud of them.. but then I never gave it a serious look.. Dint touch a brush from 4 years (yikes!! not the tooth brush.. I meant the paint brush..lol).. The pencil sketch of Lord Krishna which i proudly display on my room wall keeps reminding me of the bliss in creating something on a blank white paper.. I love making things colorful.. but again.. I m no artist!!

Literature??.. Yeah.. I do love reading novels.. Fiction that wud be.. if reading can make me a woman of literature, then may be... but but am i a voracious reader?.. no dear.. no.. I might have hardly read a dozen prominent authors, not to mention another few not-so-prominent ones.. N i cant speak at length abt novels either.. I read them for the sake of pleasure.. thats it..

In case u r getting desperate to know what I am gud at.. dont worry.. lemme tell u.. so am i.. lol.. I want to find out what I m gud at more than u.. really.. more than u..

Partying??.. nah.. I m no gud host (ofcourse no one is) .. n abt being a guest..I do attend parties.. but never got the chance of really attending the ones full of josh that people talk abt.. thats ok.. I m jus 20.. have many yrs ahead to attend them..

Am i a gud orator?..*sigh*.. a big NO.. may be i can easily make conversation with people.. but by no means i can utter the right words that few humans somehow magically seem to know.. I m no intellectual speaker..
Then what about writing?.. All the books n blogs I read, doesnt make me a gud writer either.. Informal writing is my style.. But ask me to write formally (might even be a simple letter..), I m out of that place..lol

Oh dear.. am i not gud at anything?? lemme rack my brain again..
I wish I can give up.. but this question manages to find me everywhere in multiple forms..
When I meet a new person, the inevitable question 'what are ur interests?' or 'what r ur hobbies?' comes up.. i dont blame the person asking me coz despite knowing that i dont have an answer for this quest i pose it many times.. What do I answer?? I try to escape by saying I dont have any serious hobbies or interests.. most of them give up at this.. but few persistent ones try to evoke the answer that is absent in my head.. *another big sigh*

So so so.. am i a gud for nothing human being.. DEFINITELY NOT! .. but still.. the same question remains unconquered despite this whole episode of putting my brain to strain.

All I can say right now is that I m a lazy being (that doesnot make me dumb..ok?!!) who dabbles with everything she can find but doesnt dwell into any.. I m the JACK, not the MASTER.. I do play the roles in my life well.

Hey but dont worry honey.. I m not going to give up easily.. If not now, I ll find an answer to this question.. ll let u know then :)

luv,
Spoorthy

here i come..

Hello dear blog..
Its been really long since i wrote something to u.. i ve actually been lazy.. but finally decided its time to start over.. :) .. so changed ur look..n deleted all my previous posts..
In case u r wondering y i always address to u - a virtual blog which can hardly respond... that is the precise reason.. i can write any crap and u r there to reflect it n show it off..lol.. who else will do it?
anyways.. shall come up with a new post very very soon.. my head is buzzing with ideas now.. Bye.

urs,
Spoorthy